The Toughest Part Of Motherhood

What is the toughest part of motherhood? Come weigh in on this never-ending discussion and share what traits you struggle with in motherhood.


We all know that motherhood is one of the most joyful times of our lives, yet the toughest and most challenging. Once we become parents and first hold that sweet baby in our arms everything in our life is never the same. Around the time we leave the hospital, is when reality sets in. We are now responsible for another human life other than our own. Someone that is depending on us for their every need.

The toughest part of motherhood

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The Toughest Part of Motherhood

We can read all the books and get advice beforehand, but when we get home is the moment when many of us feel the weight of the responsibility on our shoulders.

With all that motherhood entails, which part is the toughest?

Many would say it the lack of sleep. Some may say it’s all the diapers we have to change.

But do you want to know what is really the toughest part?

The toughest part of being a mother is that parenting shines a light on all of our weaknesses and struggles.

Being a mom changes us on a daily basis.

It is the toughest thing we’ve ever done. Some days are great and you feel like mom of the year, some days you stumble, and some days you just flat out trip and fall…hard.

We as parents have to adapt to our kids’ needs, personalities, and the different seasons that our family goes through.

Moms and parents, in general, have to become very adaptable to every situation that comes our way.

Kids challenge us to grow by pinpointing all of our weaknesses and struggles.

Are you an impatient person?

Are you not a morning person?

Are you a perfectionist?

Are you a planner?

Do you lose your temper easily?

These are some of the many traits we may struggle with after having kids. A lot of traits aren’t necessarily bad, but I believe that you can have too much of a good thing. These good traits and characteristics can have a negative effect on you as a parent because it just doesn’t fit in a particular season of life.


I always felt I had a hand in planning my life both present and future. After finding out we were expecting twins I really had to change my mindset. Because in all reality, all the plans we had made as a family at that point kind of all went out the window. Now, I have to be very flexible with our schedule and when things don’t go the way I planned I don’t let it affect me like it used to.


I always felt like I was an impatient person. Maybe it’s just me or maybe it’s that our generation has become accustomed to having everything at our fingertips. So much so that one year before I was even married, I asked God to help me become a more patient person. Now, here I am seven years later with 5, 4, 2-year-old twins and 2 dogs.

Being patient is something I really have to work on a daily basis because most days our life is downright nuts. But what I’ve realized is that many times my lack of patience only makes matters worse when I snap at my kids or husband.


My type A personality took a big hit when I became a mom. It is kind of funny that such a small human being can have so much say in our lives, especially when they are first born. They pretty much rule the roost on our schedules. I couldn’t shower when I wanted to. I couldn’t sleep when I wanted to, and a lot of the spontaneity in my life went out the window too.

As new parents, we all start out in the same boat, but it’s really up to us to work on ourselves on a daily basis. To realize what characteristics and traits we lack and what characteristics may affect our families negatively in any season of life. We have to constantly work on these so that we can strive to be the best parents to our kids.

What traits do you struggle with in your parenting?

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Gretchen Dauzat

Gretchen Dauzat is a wife, mom to 4, entrepreneur, and writer. Her passion is to empower moms to realize, cultivate, and pursue their passions beyond motherhood. When not folding loads of laundry, you can find her having a dance party with her family or listening to a great audiobook. Follow her on Instagram at gretchendauzat.

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  1. Jennifer Griffin says

    6 years ago

    Thanks for the lovely article. I agree that parenting can shed light on areas where we are weak. I also take this as a positive aspect of parenting and even consider it a gift, inspiring me to write a whole book about it: Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift. Our ability to embrace our weaknesses and accept them brings out the best in ourselves and our children. When we can find the message in the challenging moments with our children, we create an environment of health and healing.

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